Colleges and universities are in
the business of providing students
with the support they need to suc-
ceed. Knowing about and using such
resources are up to the student.
Dr. John Downey, dean of students
at Queens University of Charlotte, is
a resident in the Ballantyne com-
munity. He recommends that parents
become knowledgeable by learning
about what the college has to offer in
terms of career counseling, academic
advising, tutoring and wellness pro-
grams. "The No. 1 resource the stu-
dent is going to use is you — and you
are a great resource," says Downey.
The automatic response for
most parents is to rescue their
child from problems. "You should
empower the student to try first
because that is part of the learning
process," Downey says. He sug-
gests, for example, helping your
child make a list of questions to ask
a faculty member and then role-play
how to approach the situation.
Attend parent orientation, even if this
is your fifth child going off to school.